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Truth or Lies?


quotes on truth and communication - doug smith


When was the last time that you were lied to? Maybe you know, and maybe you don't. It could depend on the lie. The person who lied to you could be so good at lying that you still don't know. Or, maybe they didn't even consider it to be a lie -- but it is.

Lies cause hardship and heartbreak. Lies damage relationships and distort results. And yet, we all lie.

Maybe because we don't realize the extent of the harm that lies cause. Destroyed trust, broken promises, unfair distribution of limited resources, lost opportunities...

If we knew -- really knew -- how harmful lies really are we might stop telling them.

You could stop today.

I could stop today.

Let's stop.

-- doug smith



Be Impeccable With Your Word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. 
-- Don Miguel Ruiz



"Lying to ourselves is more deeply ingrained than lying to others."
-- Fyodor Dostoevski

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