Saturday, April 21, 2018

Chaos Cleaner


Life gives us chaos to clean out the unimportant and make room for significance.

-- doug smith


Go Big!

Make sure that your goals for each day give you something to feel good about achieving.

If your goal doesn't make you feel good, it's too small!

-- doug smith


Sunday, April 15, 2018

Friday, April 13, 2018

Clear Enough May Not Be Clear Enough


How clear is your message?

You'll know it's clear when it's understood. You'll know it's understood when your intended audience communicates it back to you, meaning and tone and urgency intact.

Clarity requires constant clarification. Chances are you're not done.

-- doug smith


Wednesday, April 11, 2018

Listen Without Judging

Listening seems easy until you try it without judging.

We're trained to judge from an early age. We judge nearly everything. We like it, we don't like it, we have our reasons our logic our standards and so we judge. Like a celebrity judge on a talent show we judge with confidence and assurance that of course we are right and entitled to judge. Completely.

And yet -- what is the point? Do you know anyone who wants your judgement? Do YOU desire anyone else's judgment?

Go ahead and judge if you want to, if you must. Here's what I know: if you truly want to listen, listen without judging. Listen with curiosity, as if you don't know the answer already.

Because maybe, just maybe, you don't.

And, by listening without judgment, you might actually hear.

-- doug smith


Friday, April 6, 2018

Listening Is A Survival Skill

Are you an active listener? An active listener makes listening for understanding the focus of a conversation. You'll have plenty of time to express yourself. First, listen.

Listening is a survival skill.

I have never regretted listening to understand before responding. Plenty of times I have regretted speaking too soon. Listening can keep you out of trouble. That conclusion you jumped to? Perhaps a moment more of listening would have clarified the situation.

That insult you didn't intend? Could more listening have alerted you to a sensitive area in your conversational partner?

That breach of etiquette, that spilling of confidential information, that career limiting rant -- so many communication mistakes can be prevented by curious listening.

If you want to communicate for results, you have to first know what your audience hears. You get there by listening. Listening to the words, the tone, the body language, the in-between-the-lines nuances of emotions.

Listening is a survival skill.  Are you practicing today?

-- doug smith


Thursday, April 5, 2018

There Is More To The Truth

Who knows everything?

I don't know everything, do you?

No one knows everything. Now, before we break out into song, maybe the best thing I can offer on this incomplete version of the truth is this:

No one can tell you your truth, AND your truth alone is incomplete.

It's true for me, it's true for you.  Or, is it?

If you allow your truth to grow, to change, to evolve, it will stop getting in your way and instead will open up more possibilities. And possibilities are the super fuel of success.

-- doug smith