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Goals are important and when we focus on them intensely can impact not only ourselves, but also other people. We'd like to think that those impacts are all positive. We'd like to believe that what is good for us is also good for other people.

That's not always the case. It is possible to focus so much on a goal that others around us feel short changed. It's a side-effect of sharp-edged focus to forget what's on the fringes, and sometimes what's on the fringes matters.

We should always consider what effect our goals have on other people.

We might still pursue those goals, but sometimes it's worth checking.

How does your biggest goal impact your closest friend?

-- doug smith


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