How strong are your boundaries?
How do you feel about limitations? When those limitations are placed on us by other people we tend to rebel. We don't like being told what to do or what not to do. Boundaries can feel like chains, even when they are well-intended.
Some boundaries are necessary. Not everyone has sense enough to avoid hurting other people, so we need protections from those types of people. But, some boundaries are needlessly restrictive: doubting ourselves, diminishing our self-esteem, holding us back from trying new things that we could enjoy..,
Self-imposed boundaries are worth auditing for effectiveness: is this what we really want?
Boundaries that stand needlessly in the way of our goals are not serving us well at all. I've had some boundaries that kept me from getting what I wanted until I realized what the wall in front of me was: me.
How about you? How are your boundaries?
You are bound by your own boundaries before anyone else ever notices them. It's not too late to decide if those boundaries stay, or go.
-- doug smith