What Gets Appreciated Gets Repeated

I say this a lot: what gets appreciated gets repeated. Have you ever done someone a favor only to have them forget all about it?

Have you ever felt under-appreciated? Many people do now, all over. Neglected, disrespected, unconnected. Yuck.

High performance leaders grab every possible opportunity to thank someone for something great that they did. You can't do too much of this.

High performance leaders take the time to appreciate a goal achieved -- and the person who achieved that goal!

-- doug smith

Personal Note:

The car pictured in this meme is a Ford Mustang that I once rented for a few days on a business trip. It was one of those "take any car you like in the row" deals and I very much liked the Mustang. A convertible!

It wasn't mine to keep. It wasn't mine for long. But, I sure did appreciate it while we were together.

Your team members are a bit like that -- they aren't yours to keep and in many cases they aren't yours for long but while you are together, are you truly appreciating their presence? Have you let them know how much you appreciate them?

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