When To Dance?

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Have you ever danced to a tune you didn't like?

Maybe it was at a wedding, or a holiday gathering, or a nightclub, or some other place. Dancing was around you and so you danced.

Dancing is usually a choice. Unless it is against your belief system (as a child I remember people in my family who thought that dancing was a sin) dancing is on the whole more beneficial than difficult.

I used to believe that I was a good dancer -- until my partner broke up with me and I discovered that SHE was the good dancer, so good that she makes anyone she dances with look like a better dancer (even me).

And yet, still I dance.

I remember the celebration dinner for a project that I worked on when the president of the company joined the rest of us on the dance floor to do a fun line dance. I'll admit, he danced better than me.

For one of the programs that I teach I offer the participants the opportunity to dance in a brief virtual dance party. Some people do (and seem to enjoy it) and some people do not. It's optional. So is fun.

Dancing is also one of the most cooperative things you can do. The reason my ex made me feel like I was a good dancer is because she was so cooperative, so collaborative, so positively joyful no matter what I did. Brilliant. Wonderful. Fun. Given the chance, I'd never want to miss that.

As high performance leaders, it's part of our job to create environments where everyone feels included, where everyone has choices (dance or not!) and where what we do helps others do what they do better. As leaders, we need to learn and practice that art of dancing like our team's depended on it.

We don't need to dance to music we don't like unless it's our job. And then, we need to dance like our world depended on it.

Wanna dance?

-- doug smith

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