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Speaking The Truth

Are you telling the truth?

Don't you feel like asking that sometimes when the person you are talking to seems to be spinning the truth? Sometimes we are so close to our version of the truth that we fail to see it could be only our version of the truth. It might not be true at all -- certainly not for others.

The best way around that is to stay curious. Stay curious about what other people say. Stay curious about what we say. Even stay curious about what we think. Every idea we clutch in our tight little hands comes to us filtered by factors we've forgotten about long ago: culture, ego, gender, parenting, schooling, experience, ethnicity...so many details strained thru lenses we don't even know are there.

Let's work a little more to stay curious.

Sometimes we're so good at spinning the truth that we don't even know it's not true anymore.

That's not helpful or useful.

It doesn't have to take long but it does take some serious mindful awareness: stay curious.

-- Douglas Brent Smith

 Would you like your team to improve its skill at staying curious and communicating more effectively? Contact me today about bringing our one-day workshop Communicating for Results to your location. You'll like the results.

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