We are all constantly evaluated. Judged. Scored. There are surveys after nearly every transaction. On the phone, online, even in person -- people ask for your feedback but hope against hope it's all good -- 5's on a scale of 5 or 10's on a scale of 10. Why? Because none of us enjoy being judged.
Yet, we all make mistakes. None of us are perfect.
We all carry around our broken pieces. We might even have moved on from those broken pieces and changed enough to avoid repeating mistakes. We do learn how to make customers pleased. We do learn how to provide our boss with what she most wants.
The broken pieces remain. Judging us for them does not fix them. Judgement does not fix the broken pieces.
Time, growth, compassion, and learning fix the broken pieces. Healing takes time and care. Judgment gets in the way.
Send your inner judge out of the room for an hour. You'll be finally free.
Yes, you do need to continue to improve your performance and to improve the performances of the people on your team. Make all the observations you want and provide all the feedback that you can (they will love you for it eventually.) Just keep your judgments to yourself.
-- Doug Smith