Forgiveness isn't free. It costs the loss of the sense of self-righteousness that sometimes feeds our feeble ego. We don't need that, but like candy, it feels like we do. Let it go.
That's harder to do when it is ourselves who we need to forgive. Then, it isn't self-righteousness that clings to the anger but something else. Something deeper, less secure, less righteous. Let that go, too.
Forgiveness isn't free. And self-forgiveness isn't easy. But my friend, forgiveness is necessary.
Let it go.
-- doug smith