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Moving Forward


When people criticize you it probably is connected to their performance.

Maybe you didn't do what they expected. Maybe they think they can do it better. Maybe you just never agreed on what the performance would be.

I've learned to listen, process, frame, and move forward. When I learn how to fix the past, I'll get busy doing that, but in the meantime, what comes next matters so much more.

-- doug smith



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