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The Significance of a Choice

 

Do Not Turn Into a Pumpkin


When you have a choice, how do you decide? Do you consider the long-term impact? Do you think about the affect on other people? 

Sometimes the significance of a choice emerges long after the choice is available.

We learn later how important the choice was. What if we could figure that out before it was too late?

-- doug smith



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