Play On

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How resilient are you? Would your team say the same thing?

So many times in life (and in leadership) I have been disappointed. Whether it was circumstances, scarcities, or troubling people, it felt easy to give up.

But even when the cards seem stacked against you -- even when defeat seems certain -- if you persist you will learn far more than you ever thought possible.

I remember a time long ago when as a high school coach for a middle school basketball team, drawing a bunch of inexperienced and un-developed players and doing my best to coach them beyond their perceived weaknesses into an enthusiastic team capable of embracing of who we were -- rank underdogs who were surrounded by supremely talented teams who always won more games than us until the playoffs came, the games mattered more, and somehow we managed to hustle our way to a trophy. It was fun, but just before it became fun it was a lot of hard and sometimes discouraging work.

When in your life do you remember overcoming the odds? When did you and your team rise to the challenge and find ways to prevail?

There will be many losses along the way. It is (although it shouldn't be) almost astounding how many defeats you must stack up to get to victory, and how fleeting that victory is. It can't be about winning and losing, because losing will win so often. It's got to be about how you play the game. It's got to be about giving yourself to a higher cause while also standing tall when that cause falls short.

Don't let defeat discourage you. Play on.

-- doug smith

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