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Bring Out The Truth

Why do people lie?

It's aggravating. It's inconvenient. It's often easy to spot. And yet, we all do it. I'm not pointing any fingers here because I know that I've spun my own version of the truth sometimes. I'm working to stop that. The older I get the more I see the value in pure, unfiltered truth.

But truth is sometimes hard to take, and maybe that's why we sometimes lie.

Lies blur our vision. Lies bruise our relationships. Lies block positive energy and fill space with something much worse. We should tell the truth.

As centered leaders, problem solvers, and goal achievers we should also bring out the truth. We should create the kinds of spaces and places where people know that they are free to tell the truth - and more than that must tell the truth because we insist on it.

Every little lie creates a vast chasm.

Let's do better than that. Let's tell the truth. And, taking the next step, let's also insist on the truth.

What "truth" do you need to clarify today?

-- Doug Smith

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