Patience, please

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It's easy to lose patience. We expect everything right away, perfect, and hassle free. When was the last time that you grew impatient because someone or something was not matching your expectations?

If you're at all like me, that was probably not long ago.

What if we took a pause. What if we let a moment form before judging it?

Those critical thoughts might not need to be said. That aggressive body language might be unnecessary.

Patience prevents endless misunderstandings.

I'm working on developing more patience. How about you?

-- doug smith

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