doug smith training

When your goals are tied to a larger mission their value prods you forward. One more step,                                   one more step,                                                   for goodness' sake take one more step... -- doug smith

What's the difference between a problem and a conflict? A conflict is a problem that you cannot solve alone. -- doug smith

"Not so fast!" "What?" "I didn't say yes. At least not yet. Be careful of assuming it's a yes..." I don't like to be pushed, how about you? I don't like it when people assume that any answer that is not a no must logically be a yes. Maybe not. It's fine to pause. It's worth thinking. No one can fault you for taking a breath, or two, or three! A pause, before a promise, can prevent that promise from being broken. I'd like to be someone who keeps my promises. How about you? -- doug smith  

There have been days when it has felt like something is missing. The pace is too slow. The temperature is too cold. The beach is too lonely. What is it? Is it exercise? Is it eating healthy? Is it starting a conversation instead of waiting for someone else? Whatever is missing from your life might only be one good habit away.  -- doug smith

Nobody can do everything, but feeling guilty about that won't change it.    We can all do something. Do what you can.   -- doug smith

Life gets better when you get better. Keep learning. Keep growing. Keep serving. -- doug smith  

Every goal matters but the goals that help define you matter more. -- doug smith  

Where does success start? It starts with the goal. What is it that you really, really want? Clarifying what your goal is can save you hours, weeks, and years of frustration. Work on what matters. Work on your goals. -- doug smith

What skill or skills are you working on these days? Are you working on new skills only, or are you also continuing to develop your areas of strength? It's not either/or, is it? Note to self: develop your skill to the point where there's no fear of using that skill -- and then keep developing it. If the skill is worthwhile, it's never totally perfected. -- doug smith  

Think about the last time you compromised on something. Whether it was a big compromise or a little compromise, how do you feel about it now? While we often call it "meet in the middle" it seldom does. Compromises are not automatically fair, no matter how implied that fairness is. Someone usually gets more out of a compromise than the person they are "compromising" with. If the low end is you, you don't like it -- and you remember that. If the top end of the compromise is you, you probably forget all about it even though the inequity simmers in the background.  Compromises must be constantly revisited because they are inevitably unfair. If you get the chance to balance things out, your relationship will prosper. If you miss that chance, the relationship will suffer. What's your choice? -- doug smith  

Is giving easy for you, or do you find it hard? Do you serve gladly, or with resentment? Do you give conditionally, or unconditionally? What if we are made whole by giving ourselves away? That just might change a lot of answers... -- doug smith  

  Positive thinking is not a magic wand. It's just better than negative thinking, and far too often it feels too easy to think negatively. We do it to ourselves, and we do it to others. Let's think, and do better by being more positive. There is no reason to fill anyone with doubt. Including yourself. -- doug smith