On Sarcasm

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Many people sense a natural gift for sarcasm. A funny remark at someone else's expense might make you laugh, but what about the person the humors is directed toward.

To say afterwards "it's just a joke" misses the obvious -- there is an element of truth inside that joke or at least an element of intention.

I know that I am overly sensitive about sarcasm and I know that many people find it funny. If it bothers me, though, I expect that it bothers other people, too. Even when we get the joke, we do not think it funny.

It's worth asking yourself before that joke emerges floating on mean spirits with the wit whether or not sarcasm is your best choice.

And when someone uses sarcasm on you, it's worth being bold enough to ask them. "Is sarcasm your best choice right now?"

Because they can do better. We can all do better. But, sarcasm does not help.

-- doug smith

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