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When We're Wrong

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Have you ever noticed that people can't seem to realize it when they're wrong?

That makes it frustrating for both the person who is wrong and the person who is quite certain that they're wrong. We get stuck. We dig in.

It happens in conversations, in conflicts, and in relationships. When we're really wrong, we're really wrong, and we don't even know it.

As long as we're wrong we don't see that we're wrong.

How do we fix that?

(Here it is worth it to pause and wonder, hmmm, how do we?)

Pause. 

It's worth a try. Stay open to possibilities. Listen as if we don't already know the answer, because even if we do the answer might have (probably HAS) changed.

When we're wrong we've got to pause to figure that out.

And when we're right, we've got to pause to see if that's still true.

There's no shame in being wrong. But, it's a total shame to stay that way.

-- doug smith  

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  1. AnonymousOctober 22, 2025 at 12:12 PM

    I may have been wrong at least a couple of times in my life!

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