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Take Charge of Your Learning

What have you learned today?

That's my favorite question. For years it was the tag line on my web site. I occasionally end a conversation or piece of writing with that question in hopes of provoking a moment of reflection that will help to capture and keep that learning. When we reflect on what we've learned we have a much better chance to put it to use.

What have you learned today?

Before every workshop that I facilitate I ask the group to reach some basic agreements. For most groups they are the same or remarkably similar. Occasionally, a group is so specialized or troubled that they'll need additional guidelines or agreements but these are the ones that I've found help the most, the most often:

We agree to:

  • Respect each other
  • Focus on the problem
  • Take charge of our own learning
If we do those three things skillfully the workshop is a wonderful success. If we don't, well let's just say it could be a long day through a troublesome event.

By taking charge of our learning we do not need to be victims. If we miss something, we can ask for clarification. If we feel that we are falling behind, we can ask for help in catching up. We can apply what we've learned and make this day, and every day, well worth while.

What have you learned today?

-- Doug Smith


Front Range Leadership: Training Supervisors for Success

doug smith training: how to achieve your goals

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