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Inspiration: Get to Know Your Team


How well do you know your team?

Leaders spend a lot of time with their team members, but sometimes don't get to know them very well. If you asked them what their dreams were or what they thought about at night before they went to sleep, would it surprise you?

High performance leaders expand their capacity of knowing their team. They learn what they don't know and explore at deeper levels what makes their team members excited, what makes them worried, and what makes them feel valued.

When a leader can let the team members know that they are valued, their value increases.

I don't know anyone as well as I think I do. I'm going to work at getting to know them better.

How about you?

-- doug smith



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