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High Performance Leaders Say Yes


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If you had to guess, do you think that you use the word "yes" or the word "no" more often? Why does it matter?

Of course we have to say no sometimes. If you chase every goal you won't achieve any of them. But I find myself saying "no" sometimes before I've even given it much thought. It's a default impulse (no!) designed to keep us safe. The problem is, it keeps us isolated, too. It keeps us stuck.

Leaders who say yes more than no are easier to follow.

Enthusiasm matters. Passion engages. Certainty build confidence.

Try this: the next time you're give then choice between yes and no, pause. Silently count to ten. Then, consider, why not? Why not yes?

Yes!

-- doug smith


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