I have a friend who likes to mess with her enemies. She enjoys mind-games that create an curiosity about what she is being so nice when her "enemy" has clearly tried to cause her problems.
She'll say the nicest thing, with complete dignity, like the finest most savvy diplomat.
I can't do that. Well, maybe I could but I try not to. Not that I'm judging, I just think you can get the same affect by maintaining respect and dignity. Even when the other person is doing their best to be your enemy. Even when they show no dignity of their own. We are each in charge of our own dignity.
It takes practice. It takes sincerity. It takes mindfulness. And yet, it's powerful.
Dignity does not require permission.
-- doug smith